Do You Know Your "Why?"

When I coach my clients, one of the first questions I ask each of them is to tell me their “why?” This question is one of the most difficult for them to answer because to be able to verbally express why we are passionate about achieving a goal is often something we have not thought enough about it to dissect it and be able to comprehend our own feelings let alone express them to another person in a manner which they can understand the importance and the value of why we are seeking the experience of accomplishing that goal. What is your “why” and can you explain to another person if they asked you why you should get a certain job, why you should win a race, or compete in a pageant. In order to know your why, you have to delve deep into your own thoughts and feelings and understand the importance of an action you are taking and most importantly, know if you are taking that action in love or in fear.

 Let me explain…we are all creatures of habit and many of our own thoughts, values, and opinions have been based on not only our own thoughts but the thoughts of our families, friends, and anyone who has helped mold our definition of who we want to become. Oftentimes our “why” is so difficult to explain because we don’t even know why we believe something or why we are following our path into relationships, careers, and even goals. If your reason for wanting to experience something that you are trying to obtain in your love is being created from a place of love, then be able to express to yourself, if nobody else why this certain goal or experience is important to you. If the reasons are for co-creating your life to enrich it in joy and love, then you know that which you are seeking is ultimately going to serve your higher purpose. If however, you are trying to accomplish a goal or establish a relationship out of reasons of fear, then you will in fact create more fear in your life.

Fear can mask itself in many different forms such as insecurity, manipulation, or anything that doesn’t bring joy to our lives. If you are trying to prove something to another person or even to yourself of proving your own worth then you may be seeking to experience something for the wrong reason and are using fear as a driving force in this endeavor. Just as fear can be a driving force in creation, love is just as powerful a motivator, and I believe the most powerful energy we can use to create. Love too can manifest itself in confidence, self-love, self-acceptance, and self-sufficiency, and anything that brings joy into our lives is going to provide a greater return of love and abundance of joy.

Now is the time to take a mental inventory of your goals and where you life is as opposed to where you want it to go, and ask yourself what is your motivator. If you are being driven by something fear-based, then stop the cycle and replace your goal with something that will bring you joy and love into your life. Ultimately we are all energy, and as energy we are constantly moving and creating, so if you are not being deliberate and intentional with what experiences you are choosing to create then you will continue creating by default and life is too short and too precious to take for granted. Here’s to you and the greatest “why” you will uncover.